This is where the story of how I met my husband, JC, comes into play. I remember the first time that I met him and even then I said that he was marriage material. At the time, however, he was already married and was the first one at the poker table to pull out pictures of his family. So, we met playing poker on a deployment in Kuwait, CRAZY! Poker was an every night thing for me. JC had to work odd hours and was not able to play as often as I did. Over time, though, we did became friends and we would sit and talk about our relationships after the games. He would talk about his wife and I would talk about a guy that I was seeing back in the states. We would give each other advice, little did we know that we would eventually be a couple. I do have to admit though, wife or no wife I did think he was hot, but I kept my distance and was respectful not only to his wife but to him as well.
He played poker less and less because of his job and most times we only saw each other in passing. We both went home on R&R leave at different times. The next time we saw each other he told me that his wife had asked for a divorce while he was home on R&R. From that moment forward he was mine, he just didn't know know it. I did have to stop for a moment and gather my thoughts. Did I really want to deal with an Ex-wife and step kids? Wow, that is a lot to take on. My friend told me "girl, you better go get him before someone else does", and so I did. JC is an amazing guy who would do anything for his family.
I spent a lot of nights talking to him about his divorce and just simply being there for him to talk to. We grew closer and closer and before you knew it we were officially a couple. Then he went north to Iraq and soon after I redeployed home to WI. He would call me from time to time but I was going to break it off with him when he returned. I was living with my mom and was going back to school in Madison, WI. JC lives in Indiana, big move.
When he did finally redeploy back to IN I went down to visit him. That visit made me remember why I had liked him so much. Again, a leap of faith, because I have no idea why I stayed with him. Statistics show that in this situation they usually go back to their ex. Any normal girl would have went running but for some reason I stayed in all the chaos and hoped that he would not leave me stranded in IN and go back to his wife and mother of his two sons. It would have been understandable considering that is most peoples intent to stay together as a family. But, he was mine and I wasn't letting go and neither was he.
We were married on October 11, 2008 in South Bend, IN and have been happily married ever since.
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